• Some areas of difficulty and assets that may be experienced by people with Asperger syndrome
• Some positive aspects of Asperger syndrome
• Helpful Hints for Friends, Colleagues, Relations of People with Asperger’s Syndrome
• Helpful Hints for the Person with an Asperger syndrome
• Issues Associated with Asperger syndrome

• Difficulty in communicating and interacting with other people - This can cause major problems as regards personal relationships and with education and employment.
• Dislike of change and the need to stick to routines - Many people on the Autistic continuum find it difficult to cope with sudden and unexpected change and often become distressed as a result of this.
• Failing to recognise facial expressions and hidden meanings - Again this can cause difficulties in dealing with friendships and relationships.
• Difficulties in recognising jokes and sarcasm and often taking everything literally - This can cause misunderstandings and embarrassments into social situations.
• General difficulties in perceiving and conforming to the unwritten rules of society.
• Difficulties in concentration and in interpreting instructions - This often goes with poor co-ordination and motor skills.
• Preferring solitary pursuits - This can be something of a disadvantage in a society where there is much emphasis on interaction - partnerships and teamwork.

• A good memory for facts - This can be a useful asset if channelled in the right direction. Probably more of an advantage to the high functioning Autistic person. Those at the more severe end of the continuum may not always have the ability to put this gift to a positive use.
• Single-mindedness - Many people in the Autistic continuum have an obsessive interest in a particular subject. Again, this could be an advantage if channelled in the right direction.
• A talent in one particular subject i.e. music or art - If this occurs, the autistic person may be at genius level at this one subject but have severe learning difficulties in everyday life.

Remember that odd behaviour is generally not deliberate

• Do not expect them to automatically understand something that may be obvious to you. Explain everything to them as simply and clearly as possible
• Try not to be ambiguous when giving group instructions or making requests
• Do not worry too much if they do not contribute to the conversation
• Remember that most Asperger’s people do not like change in any form
• Do not make an issue out of situations when they may become angry or agitated, just suggest that they got for a short walk to calm down
• If they do something which is considered anti-social, please explain this to them as tactfully as possible and suggest a better course of action
• Never tease or ridicule people with autism or Asperger syndrome in any way, they deserve the same respect as anyone else
• Above all please do not look on them as a misfit but an ordinary person with a disability

• Try and learn from people around you
• If you are not sure how to react to what is said to you, practice watching other people and ask for help
• If there is any misunderstanding, apologise and try to clarify things
• When given instructions, try and concentrate very carefully on what the other person is saying, ask them to repeat it again if necessary
• Try and keep your obsessions to yourself
• If you are forced to change your routine, try and develop a new one
• If you feel a tantrum coming on, try and find strategies to deal with it
• If you are not sure whether a joke is being told, it is best not to laugh
• If you are accused of annoying or anti social behaviour, accept the criticism and apologise and try not to do it again
• If you are victimised, try to remember that it is the other persons problem not yours. If it persists, try and talk it over with a sympathetic third party
• Remember that other people also have their problems.
  

Teenagers and young adults with Asperger syndrome will be more likely to have an awareness of their difference to those around them but have no idea how to deal with this feeling of isolation. At worst, the results can be depression and even more isolating behaviour.

Their verbal ability combined with insecurity can lead them into arguing why they do not have to do something, therefore the rules of any situation need to be made clear right from the start (start as you mean to go on). These rules may need to be written down for referral at any time.

They may rely quite heavily on the familiar presence of a particular teacher, helper or work colleague until they are very familiar with the routine and have gained confidence within the situation. They can then become very reliable, prompt and eager students/employees.

Ideally they will benefit initially from having the same helper in all situations so that both can get to know the other and a level of trust is built up. A different helper each day will be counter-productive.

The inherent lack of empathy of the Asperger syndrome student/employee and their formal, sometimes abrupt way of communicating, may be off putting to someone who does not know them. It will take a special effort on the part of family/friends/teachers/colleagues to get to know the person underneath this front and to help them build a relationship.

Most especially it must be noted that a young adult with Asperger’s syndrome, for all their ability with words, is a very trusting and vulnerable person who takes what is said very literally and this can lead them into possibly distressing or dangerous situations.